About

I eventually went to therapy to deal with anxiety issues, and realised that a lot of my anxiety actually stemmed from this internal pressure to take responsibility for everyone else's feelings whilst neglecting my own.

After some hard conversations and discoveries I finally admitted some hard truths to myself. I was able to look at my life with a new perspective and admit to myself that I wanted more from life and from my relationships.

I wanted to feel seen, valued and loved for who I really was - not only for being "easy" and accomodating.

I decided to choose myself - and as soon as I embarked on that journey I discovered a lot of things I needed to unlearn. That journey is what led me to where I am today, and my ultimate mission.

My name is Hedda Valberg Knight, and I’m originally from Norway, but currently live my life somewhat nomadically - getting to experience different cultures and countries whilst pouring myself into my mission!

So what is my mission and my story, and how did I get to the point of being a coach who helps people with self-trust?

Growing up in Norway, I was privileged to have a safe upbringing with a present and loving family.

To explain why I chose the path of helping people trust themselves, we need to go back to my childhood.

My mother, like many mothers, was what you could call a people pleaser. Growing up, I observed things in my mother that eventually became instilled patterns in myself.

She would constantly abandon her own needs and put the needs of others over her own - especially her partner and kids. I saw this tendency in most of the female role-models I had growing up. Culturally it felt like putting your needs last equaled being a good woman.

As I started following in the footsteps of the women in my life, I got praised and encouraged constantly for my selflessness and eagerness to please those around me.

I almost felt like someone with an eating disorder who's constantly praised for how they look and asked "what's your secret?". Realising you have a problem when the whole world tells you that you're acting like the perfect woman is hard. I kept seeking validation through being easy, selfless and accomodating.

Analogies aside, the real cost of this people-pleasing behavior that I developed was that I couldn’t be myself. I felt alone in my friendships and relationships because I focused so much on how others felt and what they wanted and expected of me.

I found myself playing the role of an “easy person,” and the weight of those expectations led me to lose my sense of identity and self-trust.

My first romantic relationship was the toxic type, where I found myself walking on eggshells in fear of my partner’s reactions. In the second relationship, it was a bit more complex as the toxic patterns were considerably harder to notice.

Even though it wasn’t as obvious, the same patterns persisted because I never said no, and didn't know how to ask for anything or express my needs or limits.

What is my mission?

To put it short and simple, my mission is to help others, and in turn, create a chain of people helping other people. In the times that we live in and with all the uncertainty in the world, I believe we need this more than ever.

This is my story:

What are my core values?

I believe it’s important for us as human beings to be in touch with what our core values are and what we stand for, and these are the three biggest core values that I believe in:

Compassion - I believe the human experience looks different for everyone and that we can never truly know what it's like to be in someone else's shoes. Remaining compassionate and open is a core value of mine. Self-compassion is included in this (very important).

Honesty + Vulnerability - It’s paramount for me to show that the journey of self-trust isn’t all fun and games. It’s uncomfortable, and sometimes, it can even be painful. But with honesty to ourselves and others, as well as a willingness to be vulnerable, we have a better chance than ever at building self-trust.

Self-trust doesn’t mean you’re going to be happy all the time and that you are never going to doubt yourself.

In my opinion, it’s about consistently showing up for yourself regardless of the external circumstances. And about having that deep knowing within that you will get through it and that you can achieve whatever you set your mind to.

Creativity - I believe that learning and growing can also be fun! When conducting my coaching classes, I lean heavily on visual elements to help explain concepts to the participants, and I believe that creativity is something that can enrich our lives for the better!

Why choose me as your coach?

I understand that to many people, the idea of coaching or therapy may feel confronting, heavy or intense. That’s why I do my best to bring some lightness and creativity into my practise, so it doesn’t feel like you have a brick tied to your heart at all times. Our sessions are a safe place, but also a playful one! We play, explore and get curious together.

I have a calm and supportive energy, which helps create a safe and supportive space for growth and community. My coaching sessions are judgment-free zones, and nothing you say is considered “weird” or “strange”. As a human being who has faced, continues to face, and overcome my fair share of struggles, I believe that I can help you level up and grow.

The steps I take to help you become the best version of yourself

There are four key steps I take when helping you become the best version of yourself.

The biggest value I provide to clients

These are the six biggest areas where I prove value to my clients as a coach.

1. I help clients facilitate a deeper and safer relationship with themselves.

   
   

2. I constantly push and encourage my clients to realize that they deserve better and that they can have it if they truly want it.

3. I help rekindle a sense of curiosity in my clients about who they are and why they behave the way they do.

4. I provide tools to help clients build a healthy relationship with themselves and others.

5. I help facilitate a strong sense of self-trust, confidence, and identity.

6. I help by providing community and support.

1. I help you identify your problems and where in your life they are holding you back.

2. I help you by providing tools you can use to face anxiety and discomfort when it shows up.

3. I help you identify limiting beliefs and patterns . We reframe your perspectives and re-program your mind.

4. I help you explore your identity, strengths, and personality so you feel secure enough to make the changes you’ve always wanted to make.

My fundamental beliefs

1.Learning about yourself is the best thing you can do for your relationships (and the world).

2.We all have something special to offer to our community and the world.

3.By facing your fears and using everything as a tool for personal growth you'll find value in the chaos

4.You can choose to live a purposeful life filled with passion.

5.Compassion looks like observing yourself (and others) through the lens of curiosity rather than judgment and perfectionism.

I have five pillars that can be considered some of my fundamental beliefs, and these are: